Good Morning Ladies,
I have been watching a series lately and it broke my heart. Each person was talking about how they had been judged and bullied for being different.
It really made me think about the person I want Aria to turn into. I want her to be good, I want her to be the person that get’s along with everyone but isn’t afraid to stand up for people.
My hope is for her to work hard for what she wants, and to be gracious with what she has. So I had a conversation with her a while back and we talk about these topics often. Repetition is key to learning when they are young.
Let’s Get Started!
Teach them it’s ok to have their own set of beliefs and standards, but to fight like hell to protect other’s: It’s ok to be Christian, Buddhist whatever you want to be, have your standards that is perfect. If there is another person who has a different set of beliefs or standards fight for them! The thing that makes us human is our willingness to come together with our different opinions and be civil.
Work Hard for what you want: I don’t want Aria to be handed everything she wants. It is hard to say no to her it really is. She is adorable and I want her to have things I didn’t. Me working for those things made me into a functioning human being. She currently wants a trampoline. So she is doing chores, and we have a reward system in places that allows her to earn money for her trampoline. This way she can see she worked for that trampoline and earned that trampoline. She knows what hard work is.
There are so many mean kids out there that get what they want and flaunt it for the rest to see. I feel like in the age of social media flaunting is popular. Closet tours, house tours, my designer handbag collection..a lot of flaunting. Now I enjoy some of those posts now and again but I just don’t think it’s all necessary. I want Aria to have nice things, but to also be gracious about it. It’s ok to have nice things but you don’t need to flaunt it all over social media and rub it in people’s noses.
My parents were prime examples of charity. They always had their home open to our friends that were having a rough time with their parents. My parents always told us to make sure to watch out for others. Always invite those who are lonely to our holiday dinners, or to donate clothing to shelters. I am a fashion blogger so I get a lot of clothing. A lot of my blogger friends do blogger yard sales etc. Which is a great way in making money, and I have no judgments, but I couldn’t do that, there are so many women and kids in battered women shelters or homeless shelters that need my extra shirts, coats, and shoes. I can’t make money from this stuff knowing that. So when Aria no longer wants to wear items or she grows out of things I will have her put the items in a donation box and donate it.
Live life to the fullest:
Life is short I want Aria to be happy. I want her to find a job she loves and live her happiest life. We all want this for our kids. Brandon and I will work our butts off to get her to where she needs to go to get the education she needs to make her dream life possible. It will, in turn, be up to her how hard she works for it, but if she takes #2 to heart it will be easy for her
What things do you teach your kids? Any tips for new parents that will help us raise successful kids?